I have always been very excited to let people know when I am expecting a baby. I have usually told my family and close friends right away (my mom being second to know, after Sean). But, as far as telling other people, I have usually waited to pass the first trimester before officially telling people. And, with Moroni, I did wait later than I usually do to tell people. I'm not really sure why I waited longer. Maybe because it had been so long since I had been pregnant. And I think there were some people in my ward and some people I worked with that didn't even know I was pregnant, until they heard that we had lost Moroni. And I was 17 weeks.
I know that most people wait until they are past the 1st trimester to tell people. Since the risk of miscarriage goes down, they feel 'safe' to tell people.
But, I've been thinking. Why should we wait to share our good news? I am not sure why this is hitting me so hard right now. But, why should we wait to tell people just because we fear we my lose the baby?
For me, the baby is a baby, and already loved, from the moment we learn we are pregnant. So, why does it seem (to me) that it is slightly frowned upon (by society) to tell people you are expecting right away?
While each loss was different, I grieved the loss of Nicholas, my miscarriage, and Moroni. And my family and close friends have been there to support me through each loss. I loved each baby, and I still wonder what could have been.
So, why don't we tell people, and have a bigger support system if we do experience loss?
Why don't we tell people early on and have more family and friends there on the journey?
Why do I feel like our society thinks it is inappropriate to announce your pregnancy as soon as you find out? Maybe that is more of a personal feeling. I don't know. Any thoughts?
Anyway, just some thoughts I had on my mind.